Break Up with Self-Doubt

Self Doubt

Can you remember a time in your personal life or in your career when you did not do something or pursue a goal or talk with someone because you felt as if you were not good enough or smart enough or whatever negative thoughts you had in your mind about yourself? This is called self doubt and it is very dangerous for all aspects of your development and life.

How can you overcome self doubt? First, start with accepting yourself for who you are and what you are, whatever stage you are in in your life. You have to come to a full understanding of self and your strengths and weaknesses. You can do this by being very honest with your self, by meditating, and doing self evaluation. You must understand where you are in life in order to know how to move forward. This will allow you to be in touch with your thoughts and will grow your confidence as you understand yourself and your abilities more.
Next, you must know that you are unique and you have something to offer that no other person has. Whether it is a project, an idea, or a conversation, know that your contribution will be important to the receiving party because great things happen as a result of team work and discussions/collaborations. Do not be afraid to speak your mind and speak up about issues that are important to you. Of course, you should ensure that you are in the correct place and time to speak about certain topics, keep it relevant to your current situation or position in a company or in life. For example, your company is involved in charity work, so you want to propose a project related to fighting poverty in your area. If you and your colleagues are having a meeting about departmental concerns, then it is probably not the best time to bring up your idea. Set up a separate time and space to share your idea with your colleagues. In life, same rule applies. Do not bring up personal issues with your spouse during a family dinner or reunion, save it for a private conversation. The goal is to create a space to speak your mind and share your thoughts/idea/concerns.

Next, have trust in yourself and your abilities. Do not compare yourself to others. You are YOU and there is no one in the world like you or who has same thoughts and perception as you do. They might be similar, but they are not as unique as yours, because we all process information differently and see the world in our own way. When you wake up in the morning, make sure you have a list of things that you wish to accomplish for the day and set your mind to ensure that list is complete by the end of the day (set daily lists, small steps). Later, in addition to your daily lists, you can create a to-do list for the week or the month or more! Start small and work your way up and hold your self accountable for the items on that list. It will encourage you to focus on the results and with time you will be able to see that you can accomplish a great deal of goals that you set for yourself. This will also assist with confidence. In the morning, on your way to work or a meeting or the gym, say out loud what you wish to accomplish and say this every day strong and proud until you reach desired results. For example, if you want to have a great day or set up an important meeting you can say “This will be a great, successful day” or “I will make things happen today!” or “I will get that client for my company today!” or “I CAN do this.” The more you say it out loud, the more you will believe it in and the universe will align to make things happen for you. All it takes is for you to believe in YOU, you don’t need anyone else, just YOURSELF!

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