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Believe you are an exception

I often work with people who don’t believe in themselves. It is partly my job to help them see the best of their abilities and recognize their strengths, as well as improve on their weaknesses. One of the most common sentences I hear is “But, I have a friend and she was not able to do this or that” or “My friends say it is impossible to achieve this” or “No one I know has ever accomplished this” and etc. You get my point. It is a statement after statement about why he or she cannot do something and it is based purely on what others around them are doing or not doing. It is important to hear people’s stories and points of view/opinions, but that does not mean you should directly apply them to your situation in life. Believe you are an exception! Just because something did not work for someone, it doesn’t mean that it will not work for you. If someone tries to tell you that your dreams or goals are unrealistic, that is fine. Everyone is entitled to an opinion. Respect it but don’t accept it to be your truth and reality. Give it your best shot and if it doesn’t work then learn from the experience, apply it for next time, and do better. As Maya Angelou said “When you know better, you do better.”

Your thoughts today will ultimately create your future. Be careful about you allow yourself to think and dream about. Protect your thoughts from self doubt, lack of confidence, and negative remarks from others. It is okay to listen to people, but do not let those negative thoughts or actions get inside of you. Keep guard of your sacred place where your dreams and goals live and flourish. You have the power of what you let inside. Dream as big as you wish and always stay positive. Affirmation is half the work of getting to where you want to be; therefore, being positive and believing in yourself is vital to your future success, whatever that success looks like to you. So, go on and start dreaming!

I am curious to know, what is success to you? Please share.

How much should your life/career coach do for you?

Would you solely trust someone to offer you life or career advice and just go with it? I would not. Why? Because that person is not you and at the end of the day it is not their life. Even the best life coach can offer you great insights and assist you with your goals, but ultimately it is up to you to take that information and use it wisely and making an educated choice/decision. Coaches are there to support you, to provide information and ask valuable questions to get you on the right path towards your goals. Coaches are there to motivate you and keep you accountable for your progress. Coaches are not there to make decisions for you. As a coach, my promise to you is to give you as much support as I can and ensure you stay on track with your goals, etc. It is my promise to assist you in creating a solid action plan to ensure you achieve desired results and to keep you accountable for each step that you take in that direction. It is my promise to provide you with all the tools necessary to be successful in your career change, career transformation, job search, career exploration, branding yourself, and increasing your visibility in the market.

Many clients that I meet automatically assume that I am there to get them a job or that a good CV is all you need to get a job. As much as I would like to get all of my clients jobs or improve their life situations, it is just not realistic. It is not realistic for me to get the job for you or to improve some parts of your life. I can assist you in doing, but it will not happen without effort from your end. It is entirely up to you to do that. I can assist you in networking opportunities and introducing you to like minded individuals.  It is my job to ensure that you have all the tools necessary to make the desired changes and reach positive results. That being said, it is very hard for a coach to do that without your efforts and willingness to make the change.. You, as a client, must be willing to take the necessary steps and be open to change and getting out of your comfort zone. You have to be willing to try new things and be transparent and honest with your coach.

Forbes posted a great article on career coaches and I highly recommend reading it before getting a career coach to understand how a coach can assist you and if you need one: http://www.forbes.com/sites/learnvest/2013/07/09/10-things-you-should-know-about-career-coaching/

Is it really worth it?

Often, we hear of young adults (as early as in their mid 30’s) who die from heart attacks due to work stress, money problems, societal expectations aka from keeping up with the rat race. Now, I understand that sometimes life happens and you wake up and realize that this is happening, without really understanding how you got here. But, there is always time to make necessary changes. Is it preventable? Absolutely. It starts with planning: planning your life!

Many people fail to stop and think about how they want to live their lives. They fail to understand themselves on a deeper level. They just go with the flow of the society or what culture expects of them. According to many societies, the idea of a successful life is to obtain education, get married, have kids, have a career, get paid well, buy a house and other life necessities/luxuries, etc. So, we just check these things off as we move along through life until one day we wake up and we are 60 years old and we realize that most things that took our years from us don’t matter at this point. Many of us take on jobs we don’t enjoy only because it pays well or because a certain position is prestigious to hold. We aim to earn more money so we can keep up with the society and buy things we don’t need just to impress others.

Life is already too short and natural causes will take us away at some point anyway, so it should be unacceptable for us to bring death onto ourselves by working and stressing ourselves to death! We basically volunteer for death to visit us earlier.

Here are some things you can do to ensure you don’t end up waking up and realizing you are miserable, tired, and your health is failing you:

  • stop and think about what you want out of life. if that means you need to take a vacation alone and spend some time figuring things out, then do it. Everything else can wait. What is important to you in your life, is it money or being happy or living a simple life? Be honest with yourself. What kind of life do you envision for yourself and what will it take to get there? (hint: being rich or wealthy is probably not a healthy life goal, focus on the deeper goals, legacy and how you want to be remembered, etc.)
  • write down your goals and a plan on how you will accomplish them. Check this list on daily or weekly basis to stay on track with your life plan and stay motivated. This will help you avoid burn out and stress because you will take it one step at at time/one day at a time and you will see progress.
  • wake up grateful each day and be thankful for another day on Earth. Gratitude alone will make you happy.
  • meditate and use relaxation techniques daily. Take on yoga and other exercises. This will help you stay on your life plan and help clear your mind of daily cluster of worries and to-do’s. Be mindful of everything and everyone around you. There are plenty of apps that can help you do just that. Make time for this!
  • Check in with yourself from time time and assess where you are and how you are feeling. Did you go off your path? Do you need to make some adjustments in your life? Do you need to move to another location to live the life you want?
Most importantly, maintain happiness and peace. If you are not doing this in your life, then you are doing it wrong. Revisit your plan and adjust accordingly. Do you need more time off? Do you need to spend more time with those you love or relaxing? Nothing is worth sacrificing family or health for.

Don’t wait until you get sick to realize how short and precious life is, and don’t wait until old age to realize you did not live the life you actually hoped for. Take action today!
Life can be really simple if we want it to. It all boils down to one question, do you want to live life the way you want to or do you want society and cultural expectations to dictate the way you live your life?

The best is yet to come

Do you ever stop and feel that you are right where you are supposed to be in life? Do you ever look back and recognize that all of your experiences and people you came across led you directly into the life you have always imagined? If you are doing your best and you are living with pure intentions, then it is likely that this happens to you. Often times everything that happens to us only leads us to the life we are meant for. You may not realize how going through rough patches in your life pushes you in the right direction, but you will soon realize that you had to experience those bad moments and let go of some people (or whatever your case may be) because the universe is pushing you in the direction of your goals without you even realizing it. It might not occur to you in a week, a month, or even a year down the road, but eventually you will look back and realize that all that has happened to you was simply to put you on the right path or push you harder towards the life that you want. That being said, what you imagine your life to be becomes crucial. What you think in your mind will eventually come true, so take care of your thoughts. Stay positive, imagine greatness, happiness, success, or whatever it is that you wish for. Your imagination is the preview of the life to come, so be creative, be enthusiastic and positive, think the impossible and magic will happen. Don’t let negative people or thoughts enter your mind. Life is too short to be anything but happy.

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