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Believe you are an exception

I often work with people who don’t believe in themselves. It is partly my job to help them see the best of their abilities and recognize their strengths, as well as improve on their weaknesses. One of the most common sentences I hear is “But, I have a friend and she was not able to do this or that” or “My friends say it is impossible to achieve this” or “No one I know has ever accomplished this” and etc. You get my point. It is a statement after statement about why he or she cannot do something and it is based purely on what others around them are doing or not doing. It is important to hear people’s stories and points of view/opinions, but that does not mean you should directly apply them to your situation in life. Believe you are an exception! Just because something did not work for someone, it doesn’t mean that it will not work for you. If someone tries to tell you that your dreams or goals are unrealistic, that is fine. Everyone is entitled to an opinion. Respect it but don’t accept it to be your truth and reality. Give it your best shot and if it doesn’t work then learn from the experience, apply it for next time, and do better. As Maya Angelou said “When you know better, you do better.”

Your thoughts today will ultimately create your future. Be careful about you allow yourself to think and dream about. Protect your thoughts from self doubt, lack of confidence, and negative remarks from others. It is okay to listen to people, but do not let those negative thoughts or actions get inside of you. Keep guard of your sacred place where your dreams and goals live and flourish. You have the power of what you let inside. Dream as big as you wish and always stay positive. Affirmation is half the work of getting to where you want to be; therefore, being positive and believing in yourself is vital to your future success, whatever that success looks like to you. So, go on and start dreaming!

I am curious to know, what is success to you? Please share.

Addiction-It’s not what you think!

It is no secret that I enjoy Ted Talks a great deal and love to listen to them for inspiration and new ways of thinking about common topics. I recently came across a talk by Johann Hari where he talks about addiction from a completely different perspective. His idea of why addiction happens and how to treat it makes more sense to me that anything I have come across before. With so many people suffering from different types of addictions, it is important for us to understand the reasons behind it and how to help loved ones overcome it. Whether it is a drug, sex, alcohol, or game addiction, the society tends to dehumanize individuals and criminalize them in some ways, when instead they need our connection and love and understanding, as Hari points out in his talk. I will let Hari do the talking and explaining here, you can see the video below. Looking forward to your thoughts in the comments section!

The best is yet to come

Do you ever stop and feel that you are right where you are supposed to be in life? Do you ever look back and recognize that all of your experiences and people you came across led you directly into the life you have always imagined? If you are doing your best and you are living with pure intentions, then it is likely that this happens to you. Often times everything that happens to us only leads us to the life we are meant for. You may not realize how going through rough patches in your life pushes you in the right direction, but you will soon realize that you had to experience those bad moments and let go of some people (or whatever your case may be) because the universe is pushing you in the direction of your goals without you even realizing it. It might not occur to you in a week, a month, or even a year down the road, but eventually you will look back and realize that all that has happened to you was simply to put you on the right path or push you harder towards the life that you want. That being said, what you imagine your life to be becomes crucial. What you think in your mind will eventually come true, so take care of your thoughts. Stay positive, imagine greatness, happiness, success, or whatever it is that you wish for. Your imagination is the preview of the life to come, so be creative, be enthusiastic and positive, think the impossible and magic will happen. Don’t let negative people or thoughts enter your mind. Life is too short to be anything but happy.

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How do you prepare for your day?

How do you start your day?

I came across an inspiring article “10 Things You Should Do Every Day Before 10am,” which provides some suggestions about how you should start your day to get the max our of your time and set your mind for the day ahead. Now, you don’t have to swear by these 10 things but I think implementing some of these are great for all of us. Some of my favorite ones are: meditate and hydrate. Meditating in the morning allows your mind to start fresh and be mindful of how you are feeling that morning, as well as gives you an opportunity to be thankful for having another day to achieve your goals and enjoy life. Drinking plenty of water (great with lemon) is a good way to wake up your organs and body, while allowing the lemon water to detox you in the morning. I think it is valuable to drink water with fresh lemon first thing in the morning and preferably 30 minutes before breakfast. Another thing I can add is exercising, stretching is great too, but I think getting your workout in first thing in the morning is great. This way you get your exercise, and then you have all day to focus on other tasks. I find it hard to hit the gym after work because at that point I am not as motivated and other things come up that take my attention. I also like to start my day by enjoying a nice, hot and fresh cup of coffee, while watching the news. I literally go to bed just thinking about my morning, because this is a ritual I look forward to each day 🙂

Try to set a routine that works for you, while implementing some, if not all, of these suggestions into your morning routine. The key is consistency.

You can find this article here: http://www.powerofpositivity.com/10-things-you-should-do-every-day-before-10-am/

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What it means to be happy

I recently read a great book by Jonathan Haidt (a positive psychology professor at the University of Virginia) called The Happiness Hypothesis.  The book discusses what defines happiness and what it looks like, as well as what makes us happy as individuals. Haidt uses ancient wisdom from several of the world’s civilizations to understand happiness.  I thoroughly enjoyed this book because it cleared my way on discovering what it means to be happy. I think he did a great job using positive psychology and lessons from previous generations to help us understand happiness. Sure there are many things and people that can make us happy.

For example, reaching a goal or buying something new makes one happy, most of the time; but, this happiness is only temporary since it wears off as the time progresses. If you get a new car, after awhile you get used to it and it doesn’t necessarily make you happy as it did the first day that you bought it. In marriage, we all go through moments when we are really happy with our partner but there are definitely days where it is hard to get along with your partner. In this case, the “in love” feeling that we feel in the beginning of a relationship is only temporary and it is soon replaced by a different kind of love, a stronger love that couples develop over years. As we grow together, have children, go through thick and thin, love takes on different meanings. Many fail to recognize the different kinds of love and they feel that they have “lost” the spark in their relationship. Usually, the person feeling that the magic is gone is the one to file for divorce or start creating problems in the marriage. They think that because the spark is no longer there, that their partner might not be the “one” for them. During this stage in marriage, many commit adultery and ultimately separate from their partners. However, those who make it through such rough patches, usually come out stronger and happier. We cannot all be happy 24 hours a day 7 days a week, and personally I feel many couples forget that and expect perfect romances all of their lives.

Heidt also points out a very interesting concept about the level of happiness that we feel. He states that we all have a default or genetical happiness that we feel, which is our center point. Some days we are more happy than others, sometimes even months go by that we feel extreme happiness, but as we get used to our new circumstances (whatever made us happy in the first place), then we go back to our default level of happiness. For example, you got a new house and you are really happy in your new life and your new home. it is everything you ever wanted and you feel as if you wouldn’t want anything else. Years might go by, maybe just a few months, and you will get used to your new house and your new life, and you go back to your default happiness level. Ultimately, there are some things that make us more happy than we normally are, but eventually that moment wears off and we go back to our normal happy. He goes into more details of this concept, I do recommend reading the books, it will open up your mind to happiness and love in ways that you have not thought of before.

We all constantly search for meaning of happiness and strive to reach a certain level of happiness and love in our lives. We work hard in our careers to reach some success level to make us happy. We look for partners to share life with us to make us happy. We have children, spend time with family, earn money, and do whatever else we have to in order to achieve some level of happiness, whatever happiness means to you. However, it is not as easy as it might seem and this book discussed just that. Personally, this was a great book to get me started on understanding the meaning of happiness.