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Believe you are an exception

I often work with people who don’t believe in themselves. It is partly my job to help them see the best of their abilities and recognize their strengths, as well as improve on their weaknesses. One of the most common sentences I hear is “But, I have a friend and she was not able to do this or that” or “My friends say it is impossible to achieve this” or “No one I know has ever accomplished this” and etc. You get my point. It is a statement after statement about why he or she cannot do something and it is based purely on what others around them are doing or not doing. It is important to hear people’s stories and points of view/opinions, but that does not mean you should directly apply them to your situation in life. Believe you are an exception! Just because something did not work for someone, it doesn’t mean that it will not work for you. If someone tries to tell you that your dreams or goals are unrealistic, that is fine. Everyone is entitled to an opinion. Respect it but don’t accept it to be your truth and reality. Give it your best shot and if it doesn’t work then learn from the experience, apply it for next time, and do better. As Maya Angelou said “When you know better, you do better.”

Your thoughts today will ultimately create your future. Be careful about you allow yourself to think and dream about. Protect your thoughts from self doubt, lack of confidence, and negative remarks from others. It is okay to listen to people, but do not let those negative thoughts or actions get inside of you. Keep guard of your sacred place where your dreams and goals live and flourish. You have the power of what you let inside. Dream as big as you wish and always stay positive. Affirmation is half the work of getting to where you want to be; therefore, being positive and believing in yourself is vital to your future success, whatever that success looks like to you. So, go on and start dreaming!

I am curious to know, what is success to you? Please share.

How bad do you want it?

What do you do in your free time? Specifically that time before and after work? Do you come home and watch tv? Or maybe go meet friends for dinner or coffee every night? Do you wake up late with just enough time to make it to work?

Take some time and review how you spend your mornings and evenings and other times that you are not at work.

Now, I want you to think about your goals and dreams for the future. What are you doing in your free time to get you closer to those goals and dreams? During your regular work schedule you should be focusing on your work at hand so you can do your job well and be successful in your company; thus, you need to make time when you are not at work to pursue your other personal goals. And, maybe your goals include getting promoted within the same company or to improve in your career, in which case doing your regular 9-5 work will help but there is more work to be done. Even if you are looking to get promoted within the same company, there are still plenty of things you can do to aid that process before and after work. For example, reading related materials or writing about related topics will benefit you in your learning and it can build your expertise in front of management and stakeholders of the company. Attending networking events or educational seminars after work or on weekends can also benefit you in your particular field or any field for that matter. Networking goes a long way. You can read more about networking in my previous post here: Don’t network, build relationships! See what goes on in your industry, are there workshops or conferences coming up that might be beneficial for your learning and exposure? Are there committees, associations, or memberships you can join to gain more insights and expertise in your area?

Waking up early and exercising or meditating will help you start your day on a positive note and starting your day with any sort of exercise will give you energy for the whole day. I will not go into the abundance of benefits that morning exercise, meditation, yoga, or any physical activity can bring to your life, but if you want to learn more, you can check out this article here: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/09/15/morning-workout-benefits_n_1900889.html

Now, let’s say, you are not planning on staying within your current role or company , but instead looking to venture out on your own or join a new company. Similar rules will apply in terms of attending workshops, networking events, and reading related materials as stated above; however, you have to be even more proactive. If you are looking to start a business on your own, then you need to work on your business plan, understand the market, do the research, and potentially look for investors. When starting a business, you need to be an expert in your business and surround yourself with people who will help you get there. Thus, spending time with potential partners, clients and other stakeholders is important. In this case, you need to build relationships with people. People do business with others they like and trust. In order for someone to like you and trust they need to know you and spend time with you.

If you are looking to move to another company, then you should meet colleagues in that particular industry or company, network with them, learn more about the companies you are interested in. Do your homework, understand the culture of the company and what value you can bring to your next employer. Companies hire people to cut cost or increase revenue. Can you do one or both? Do you need to get further education to get that next role? Do you need a certification or a particular set of skills that you have yet to develop? Do you need to be exposed to certain business environments? You should start thinking about these things and work towards making the next move. Here is a helpful article about changing careers to help you explore this topic further: https://www.themuse.com/advice/8-steps-to-an-utterly-successful-career-change

To conclude, what you do in your free time is vital to your future success. If you spend your evenings attached to the TV or sitting in a coffee shop with friends talking about miscellaneous topics, you will not achieve desired results. If you wake up in the morning with just enough time to make it work and don’t make time to exercise and prepare for the day you will not be as focused or energized. The only question remains is ” How bad do you want to achieve your goals?” It comes to down to discipline, determination, and persistence.

If you need any assistance or would like to discuss the topic further, feel free to reach out! I am happy to help!


Addiction-It’s not what you think!

It is no secret that I enjoy Ted Talks a great deal and love to listen to them for inspiration and new ways of thinking about common topics. I recently came across a talk by Johann Hari where he talks about addiction from a completely different perspective. His idea of why addiction happens and how to treat it makes more sense to me that anything I have come across before. With so many people suffering from different types of addictions, it is important for us to understand the reasons behind it and how to help loved ones overcome it. Whether it is a drug, sex, alcohol, or game addiction, the society tends to dehumanize individuals and criminalize them in some ways, when instead they need our connection and love and understanding, as Hari points out in his talk. I will let Hari do the talking and explaining here, you can see the video below. Looking forward to your thoughts in the comments section!

How do you prepare for your day?

How do you start your day?

I came across an inspiring article “10 Things You Should Do Every Day Before 10am,” which provides some suggestions about how you should start your day to get the max our of your time and set your mind for the day ahead. Now, you don’t have to swear by these 10 things but I think implementing some of these are great for all of us. Some of my favorite ones are: meditate and hydrate. Meditating in the morning allows your mind to start fresh and be mindful of how you are feeling that morning, as well as gives you an opportunity to be thankful for having another day to achieve your goals and enjoy life. Drinking plenty of water (great with lemon) is a good way to wake up your organs and body, while allowing the lemon water to detox you in the morning. I think it is valuable to drink water with fresh lemon first thing in the morning and preferably 30 minutes before breakfast. Another thing I can add is exercising, stretching is great too, but I think getting your workout in first thing in the morning is great. This way you get your exercise, and then you have all day to focus on other tasks. I find it hard to hit the gym after work because at that point I am not as motivated and other things come up that take my attention. I also like to start my day by enjoying a nice, hot and fresh cup of coffee, while watching the news. I literally go to bed just thinking about my morning, because this is a ritual I look forward to each day 🙂

Try to set a routine that works for you, while implementing some, if not all, of these suggestions into your morning routine. The key is consistency.

You can find this article here: http://www.powerofpositivity.com/10-things-you-should-do-every-day-before-10-am/


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How Food Affects Your Stress Levels

I came across a great article (which you can read below) that discusses how the foods we eat help us or hurt us when it comes to stress levels.

It is no news that bad stress leads to many negative things, such as fatigue, depression, illness, weight gain/loss, mood swings, insomnia, and the list goes on. However, there are many things we can do in our daily routines that can decrease our stress levels. For example, exercise and meditation greatly reduce stress levels. Spending time with loved ones and enjoying a fun activity also help in keeping one’s stress levels in check. Foods also have great effects on your stress levels, as discussed in the Success magazine. The article provides some pointers about what one should eat to reduce stress levels, you can read more by following this link: http://www.success.com/article/how-food-affects-your-stress-levels-both-good-and-bad

Personally, I enjoy reading a great book to reduce my stress levels when needed, especially when I need to disconnect from the real world and emerge myself into a world of positive thinking and a great fantasy, which so many authors can provide for us. I also enjoy exercising and doing yoga, as well as cooking to reduce stress or just do something that my body will thank me for later. I believe we should all practice different techniques that reduce stress in our lives, because stress affects every cell in our body and it is truly a silent killer to many of us if we don’t treat it.